Kink Talk: Display
November 3, 2022
For what this post is about, I had been rolling through my head why it is I don't consider exhibitionism a kink interest despite the fact that I do write a bit that seems to focus on being witnessed or caught. Likewise I don't really consider myself interested in 'body worship' forms of kink either despite the fact that the way I write certain human/nonhuman interactions might lean that way. I'm going to try to sort of talk through why I don't think either of these are quite right, maybe try to figure out what to call it at all?
I'm into public risk, and sometimes public sex and public use in the right conditions, but I do not consider this exhibitionism. The idea of people watching in and of itself, is not a turn-on. The turn on is the man being aggressive, protective, in contrast to the public. The turn on is knowing nothing bad or unwanted will happen despite the addition of other beings in the local area that are not just the intended partner. If the lead partner(s) isn't protective, careful, and attentive to the submissive woman in the public scenario, then it's not sexually interesting to me. I get no turn on from the concept of the woman being an object of just display or masturbating in front of an audience, things that exhibitionism usually entails. Which is why I don't really consider exhibitionism a kink that I'm interested in.
Moving on to the next one, the reason why I don't really list anything like body worship or pussy worship as forms of kink is because the term itself, worship, feels extreme. Yes, compliment, talk about the body, what you like or appreciate, express the satisfaction you get from it and praise it, but be 'normal' about it? Which is a weird thing to say, I know, what is 'normal' in this context. To me it's, don't wax poetic, don't spend all your time, talking, do something about it. It may seem like splitting hairs to say that I would be more keen on it, if the word was 'appreciation' and not 'worship' but that's kinda where I sit on the matter. That and I consider it all part of the Praise Kink, so I feel like this kind of talk and focus in inherently covered by Praise Kink.
That said, I realize I write a non-trivial amount of mixed species taking time with 'examining' and verbally commenting on the differences in genitalia between species. And yeah, that's going to result in more comment's about what the woman has because that's where I want the focus to be because that's what I am. But I still don't see this as 'pussy worship', because the specific appeal is xenophilic/exophilic in nature. A fascination with the thing that is different from you and finding things appealing despite these differences. I have no interest in such 'examination' if both partners are completely human. That's another reason why I don't consider it a 'pussy worship' kink.
All of it combined though might be just different forms of sexual objectification? Being regarded as a sexual object, but explicitly one that is respected and revered, but still being used all the same. It's one thing to be the sexual object and still be respected between the woman and one man, it's different to hold the space of a sexual object in a space with others and still be respected as a person after the display and use. Higher stakes, higher reward, I think that's the important element to any public play for me, not the exhibitionism or public play itself. Because that's the thing, the moment there's degradation or disrespect, belittling, or being seen as lesser for the act, that it becomes incredibly unappealing to me.
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