Kink Talk: Lightening Round
March 3, 2020
I've not really been sure what to write on just yet since I already hit my big ones so if someone wants to ask about something on the list they're curious about well: https://www.f-list.net/c/ladylibido/ And in the meantime I'm gonna cover a few kinks that really only need a sentence to a paragraph to explain. But on the off chance there's something here someone might think is worth elaborating further on, you could always message me or use my Retrospring to ask for more.
Clit-Stim: Like with any 'sex act' I feel like I shouldn't have to explain it more than 'IT JUST FEEL GOOD'. I really, really enjoy direct clitoral stimulation. That's literally it. If anything the reason why I highlight it is because of how little it is used. Over the last 10 years there's been a huge uptick in just mere acknowledgment the clit exists, but it's still difficult to find content that focuses or even recognizes or acknowledges how strong a sensation it is, any of the content that does exist it largely swings towards masturbation or a brief flick or touch as though that's supposed to do anything. (honestly, the bad representation of clit play is something I could write a full rant about)
Faceless Things/Digitegrade Legs: This is purely aesthetic. I do not experience primary sexual attraction so I don't even find these things sexually arousing on their own, I find them aesthetically pleasing. My kinks and my aesthetics don't have to line up, it's just really nice when it does.
Non-Humans: Related to the above, it's largely aesthetic. The rest is my sociological and physiological fascination with what goes into beings of wildly different cultural backgrounds finding solace in one another. That romanticism of similarities in our differences.
Weird Genitals: Boils down to basic carnal want. If it looks like it'll feel good, I want it in me.
Restraint: I'm submissive. Waddidya expect? But also because it's to save me from myself.. also my partner. I've kinda injured him a few times and he's pretty darn proud of that, but also he doesn't like that I kinda kick him away in the process thus, preventing him from being able to continue overstimulating me lol. But I don't find shibari that interesting. I also don't like total restraint/encasement, total immobility is terrifying and sets off claustrophobia issues.
Size Difference: Another extension of being submissive due to being smaller and thus, easier to be overpowered. There is of course, also a comfort in someone bigger than you, over you. At least for me when I'm completely gone in my own head, there's still a shield in someone just being naturally bigger than me able to obscure or otherwise protect me in that time.
Improvised/Natural Restraint: When I say improvised restraint I mean anything that is used for restraint that might not have been brought for that intent. Belts, ripped clothes and jackets, any of the surrounding landscape. I find that ravenous, carnal 'just gotta pin them down with something' really provocative, and much more interesting than planned restraint. Natural restraint in so much that someone's own power or size is good enough to act as a restraint.
Protective/Possessive Partners: Look, I spend so dang much of my life protecting and doing things for others, it's nice to have someone have that same motivation towards me. (but without being controlling/restricting/over-protective) While it's also still a submissive subset, it's nice to be wanted enough for the partner to be protective, and also understanding the anxieties and fears of someone to want to protect that.
Public Risk: A protective extension. I'm not exactly into exhibitionism, I prefer intimacy, but I am into risky settings that calls on the dominate partner to protect and soothe the submissive in a setting they would otherwise be anxious about and that in the end while it gets risky or close to a negative outcome, nothing actually happens and the dominate did a good job of both protecting the submissive and belaying their fears.
Breeding: Related to having a possessive, covetous partner, and just the carnal, aggressive sex that comes with the drive of wanting or needing to impregnate their partner. Especially if pleasure focused cus the whole 'gotta make it pleasurable for the female cus it makes her more receptive to implanting', cus I want those multiple/forced orgasms. That being said, I actually have no interest in the actual pregnancy part of it, only the action.
Anonymous Sex: One of my big anxieties after someone finds out I'm submissive that they assume somehow that attribute is a detriment to my personality or that my forward facing personality is somehow 'false' and treat me accordingly. Being anonymous, having sex with people that both I don't know and who don't know me or who I am, gives me this sense of freedom that I can turn on or off my sexuality at any time, and it won't come to roost in my personal life.
Power Play: Vying for power and fight sex where it starts rough before being overwhelmed and rendered submissive by sexual stimulation. It's allegorical to my own fight with my own struggles with allowing myself to let go.
Praise: Huge, huge kink. Both tied to my inability to let go, and my need to be 'on' and Doing something All The Time. I'm selfishly enjoying something and you're still telling me I'm good? I don't have to do anything?? To deserve praise??? Just myself, as I am, is valuable???? it's like giving me permission to enjoy it, to be selfish, and that it's enough.
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